Not only should you move out of your comfort zone once, but you need to do it constantly.
It is very important for every entrepreneur who dreams of success to make courageous decisions in every aspects of the business. I know it seems to be difficult and requires a lot of self-disciplines. Yes, that’s true. You tend to be in your comfort zone and you don’t want to leave it. You feel good and safe in your comfort zone, don’t you?
There are some buts… You see, if you desire to reach out for something big in your life, if you want to become something more than just an ordinary individual, you have to be sure that only because of your courage you can achieve greatness in your life.
What does happiness mean to you? Is it spending time with loved ones, being outdoors in nature, a new puppy? Or is it something less tangible – that feeling of satisfaction you get from a job well done, or a goal attained?
Here’s what Webster’s has to say:
Happiness: good fortune, prosperity; a state of well-being and contentment, joy; a pleasurable or satisfying experience; felicity, aptness.
Most people are empathetic, unless they have a personality disorder, and they understand that emotions are sacred. To be taken seriously. Most people agree that it’s morally unethical to toy with someone else’s emotions.
But some people-notably narcissists and psychopaths-find emotional manipulation to be a useful tactic in gaining control or domination over others. Emotional manipulators (EM’s) have such a distorted view of their own importance in the world that they have no qualms about playing harmful mind games with other people. In extreme cases, that’s just what it is-a game. The perpetrator plays the game for his own amusement-just to see how much he can tinker with your brain. Often these people are so skilled, you don’t realize they’ve been hurting you until damage is done. That’s why it’s important to understand these tactics to minimize the chance of someone using emotional manipulation against you.
Identify emotional manipulators so you can protect yourself.
I recently attended a business conference where Dr. Shad Helmstetter spoke. Dr. Helmstetter is the author of the book “What You Say When You Talk To Yourself”. He gave an incredible talk on positive self talk.
Dr. Helmstetter said that from the moment that you were born, every message you have ever heard has been stored in your brain. During the first 18 years of your life, if you grew up in a reasonably good household, you heard the word “no” about 148,000 times.
The brain is designed to believe what it is told the most. The more things are repeated to you, the more you will believe it. Dr. Helmstetter said that 77% of what is programmed in your brain is false and they hold you back unnecessarily. When you start to think negative things about yourself, you tend to be less confident in yourself. When you are less confident you don’t believe you are capable of good things and accept when you do things that are sub par and you don’t fight to do better.